Forgiveness Prayers for Self Healing

Forgiving someone is easier said than done

Forgiving someone is easier said than done

Many gurus, spiritual teachers and those popular spirituality images on Facebook say you should forgive those you feel have wronged you. They say it’s healthier to forgive than to keep the anger and resentment locked up inside. They say that not forgiving will make you miserable, sad and even sick.

They’re right, of course.

But forgiving someone who’s hurt you is easier said than done.

So how do you forgive?

The Goal of Forgiveness

“Forgiveness is the economy of the heart… forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits.” ~ Hannah More

The goal of forgiving is always to heal yourself. It’s not to change someone else or make them feel better. Just because you forgive someone, doesn’t mean you agree with their actions. You should forgive because it’s good for YOU, and that improved life experience is always the destination of any spiritual path.

In fact, feeling good should always be your top priority. Why? Because the Law of Attraction states that how you feel is your Point of Attraction so if you want to attract good people, circumstances or events into your life, you need to feel good first. That’s why I (and many others) offer Practical Spirituality Tools: to help you attain that happiness.

Forgiveness Prayers

Forgiveness prayers are simple but powerful. They’re strong enough to untangle some of the most stubborn anger, resentment and frustration entanglements between you and others. They work incredibly fast.

Let’s say you’re in a total funk. You feel angry at someone. The anger is so strong you can almost feel steam coming out of your ears. What do you do?

This is something I experienced recently. Since I don’t tolerate feeling this bad for long, I started going over some of the processes I’ve already discussed. I started with The Focus Wheel Process, moved on to Piece Alignment and ended with Meditation. Nothing worked. The anger was still there. I was so angry I couldn’t focus or relax enough to do any of these processes right.

Thankfully, I have quite a few processes in my Practical Spirituality Toolbox, including Forgiveness Prayers — which doesn’t require relaxation or focus. Perfect!

The result was nothing short of a miracle! Within about ten minutes of driving and talking, my favorite way of saying Forgiveness Prayers, my anger almost completely dissipated. A few more minutes of lying quietly and reinforcing the new state of mind closed the deal for me. It’s a lot cheaper than Prozac, and the only side effect is a big happy smile!

“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting. “~William Arthur Ward

The Process

Forgiveness has to go BOTH ways: from you to them, from them to you. It’s the only way to untangle this vibration

Forgiveness has to go BOTH ways: from you to them, from them to you. It’s the only way to untangle this vibration

When I was first given the Forgiveness Prayer Process, I didn’t like it. I thought it was a bit passive-aggressive and neither of those things sounds like fun. It took me six months of resistance until one day it was explained to me in a slightly different way and I got it!

Here’s how to do it:

Part 1: Give Forgiveness

Think about the person, people or things towards which you’re feeling anger or resentment.

Now say aloud:

“I forgive you for…

List all the ways you think they did you wrong. Keep going until you get everything out. You can even say the same things again and again if you want. Take your time and tell that person exactly what you’re forgiving them for doing.

You don’t have to feel that you forgive them. The prayer will work anyway.

Part 2: Ask for Forgiveness

Giving forgiveness might help you feel a little better already but remember that forgiveness has to go BOTH ways: from you to them, from them to you. It’s the only way to untangle this vibration.

So now, say this:

“Please forgive me for…

List all of the things for which you think you should be forgiven. Keep going on this one too. You will find that you have all sorts of reasons to ask for forgiveness that you wouldn’t have thought of previously.

Part 3: Now you can close the circle by saying:

“And let’s all forgive ourselves.
“Thank you Divine Light, amen Divine Light.”

You can replace “Divine Light” with whatever you want to call a higher power: God, Source Energy, Mother Spirit, whatever. You can even omit this part if you don’t feel comfortable with it.

It Really Works!

The goal of forgiving is always to heal yourself.

The goal of forgiving is always to heal yourself.

Forgiveness Prayers really do work. For example, I had a customer recently who really knew how to push my buttons. I was so furious at him and he just kept going, complaining, moaning and annoying the daylights out of me. This is how my Forgiveness Prayer for him went:

“I forgive you for:

  • Annoying the hell out of me.
  • Always complaining.
  • Never appreciating our hard work.
  • Trying to stir things up with other customers.
  • Being manipulative on our forum.
  • Trying to get your way forcefully.
  • Not having enough resources to figure out ways to use the product just the way it is.
  • Always looking at what’s wrong instead of what’s right.
  • Thinking that somehow I am the gateway to your happiness.
  • Not understanding that you are the creator of your own reality, not me.
  • Being in a low level of consciousness.
  • Not understanding that you can get anything you want and it has nothing to do with me.”

This went on and on for about five minutes. I could actually feel the tipping point when I started feeling better. It was that palpable.

Then I started asking for forgiveness for my part

“Please forgive me for:

  • Not always appreciating your feedback.
  • Not always listening and trying to understand what you want.
  • Not seeing you through the eyes of source.
  • Not acknowledging your contribution to my expansion.
  • Blaming you for feeling bad, while actually I am the one who creates my own reality.
  • Not acknowledging that I attracted your behavior because of my vibration.
  • Not appreciating you just the way you are.
  • Shutting you down and being mad when you speak your mind.
  • Judging you for being in low consciousness.
  • Expecting you to see my big picture and my perspective even if you can’t.
  • Not letting you be where you are in your development.

Finally, I added, “Let’s all forgive ourselves. Thank you Divine Light, Amen Divine Light.”

And that was it! I felt much lighter and so neutral that I was able to have a pleasant conversation with this customer on our forum — a real miracle! From now on, this person will not be able to get to me as much as he did because I am a lot more neutral about him. And of course, because I am neutral there is a good chance he will tone himself down. That’s how the Law of Attraction works.

Why Do Forgiveness Prayers Work?

What is it about Forgiveness Prayers that work? It almost seems counter-intuitive to list all the things for which you forgive someone. It’s almost as though you’re activating them again. But working the energy from you to them and from them to you just untangles everything. I don’t know why it works, but it does. That’s good enough for me.

I like to do this while I drive. I find it’s a great way to pass the time and I can keep going without distraction.

I like to do this while I drive. I find it’s a great way to pass the time and I can keep going without distraction.

But in my experience, it only really works when you say the prayer aloud. Just thinking your prayer doesn’t work as well. You have to hear yourself saying the words. You can even record yourself on your cell phone saying them if it’s too weird to talk to yourself. I like to do this while I drive. I find it’s a great way to pass the time and I can keep going without distraction. You can even do one forgiveness prayer after another if you have more to work on. There is no better use of your time than those quiet moments in SoCal gridlock!

If you have someone you’re angry at or hold resentment towards, give this Forgiveness Prayers Process a try; don’t hold that anger locked inside. Forgive to feel better and to attract good things into your life.

You’ve just added a great tool to your toolbox.

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About Merav

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  1. Great post, Great blog! I love it!

  2. Another brilliantly practical post! A great way to live a peaceful and happy life…Thanks Merav 🙂

  3. Ive tried this a few times, more than a few actually and had zero success. Maybe im a little too desperate to get over the hurt and need for revenge

  4. Natasha says:

    This really helped me to release the built-up anger I had inside. I actually tried to have a face to face with my sister that I was in conflict with but she refused. The message that she sent was that she is not upset with me but prefer to be alone because it’s less confusion and everyone lives happy she thanked me for my understanding. I gave her God’s blessing and wished her continued happiness and peace of mind, I also told her that one day I hope she has a different point of view and that we can be sisters and friends again. All of this comes after six (6) years of neither of us speaking to each other because we both refused to give in. After reading and doing the exercise I made the attempt and the above was the response that transpired. I have accepted that for now there is nothing further that I can do, but I am now at peace with myself, and it is the beginning of a self-healing process for me. THANK YOU!!!

    • That’s awesome Natasha! I’ve been doing this technique with everyone and everything that was upsetting me and it works miracles!

  5. I have done an unfathomable amount of hurt to my dear boyfriend and i was wondering if this forgiveness parayer is best done alone or could I bring it to him and we do it together? I’m not asking in the hopes that he forgives me and saves our relationship from erupting but because he doesnt deserve to live with the pain I caused him weighing on his heart. Thank you in advance

    • I would say do it alone. It will clear the anger energy between you. He doesn’t have to participate. Good luck!

  6. Chantal says:

    I understand that sometimes the hardest thing in life can be forgiveness. But ive learned that if you dont forgive it can hinder your blessings love what your doing may god bless you

  7. Edgar Chikunji says:

    Forgiveness is the only factor which can unblock the blessings of God towards Humanity.You forgive others,God forgives you also.Matthews 6:14

  8. Yesenia says:

    Just what I needed !!! Thank you.

  9. I thank you for this great prayer, I’m angry with my other half who is addicted to social media and social net working. He was adopted and using this as an excuse to talk to other adoptee’s especially woman. I will try this prayer today on my drive home. Diana


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